Overcome Negative Thinking

With the New Year upon us, its a great time to make some positive changes and one of the most powerful changes you could make is the way you think and talk to yourself.  

Everything we think, feel, say and do becomes a part of our reality whether we are conscious of it or not.  The law of attraction, which is a universal law, states that we attract into our lives what we focus on.  So it couldn't be more important to be sure to focus on the positive to bring about more positive things in our lives.  But when life gets rough or we are feeling down it can be hard to keep the dialogue in our minds on a positive note.  In order to make lasting changes in the way you think, you will need to make a committment to catch yourself when you start to get down.  Because no matter how things may feel, you have the power, starting with your thoughts, to create a life that  brings you happiness and joy.  

So, how do we change our thinking?  One thought at a time.  Like anything you start new, its going to take practice for it to become a habit.  Catching negative thoughts is the first step in overcoming negative thinking.  When we have a negative thought about a situation or a person our emotions will send us a signal.  Usually a negative thought will cause a negative emotion and we will feel unpleasant.  This is a sign!  Listen to yourself and how you are feeling.  If you have just encountered an unpleasant experience or person and are struggling to have a positive or even neutral reaction, you are probably starting a negative thought cycle.  This is the best time to catch yourself and replace those negative thoughts with something positive.  This can be done by shifting perspective.   Let's walk through an example of how to change perspective and have a positive thought about a situation that left you feeling less than happy.  Let's say, you were already having a tough day and this interaction was the last thing you needed.  Your checking out at a store where you often go and the cashier is extremely rude to you.   As you walk out of the store you are thinking to yourself, what a rude person, what a real butt head! I don't like that person and they are worthless and stupid.  What an idiot, they can't even get a decent job.  Then someone pulls out in front of you as you are leaving the parking lot.  That's it!  You have had it.  The world is full of inconsiderate people and this sets the tone for the rest of your day. 

What can you do differently to change your reaction, thinking and the outcome for yourself?   Shift perspective and try to put yourself in the other persons shoes.  Ask yourself some questions like.....  Does that cashier actually know me?  Do I know them?  Do I know what they might be going through in their personal life? The answers are more than likely NO.  Its possible that person just got some bad news about a family member or their own health and well being.  Its possible that they are going through a personal struggle that just spilled over into their job and subsequently you.  It wasn't personal and you shouldn't take it to be.  When you start to think about all the possible things that could cause a person to be rude, you start to realize that it wasn't about you and you shouldn't let it affect the way you think or how you feel.  In this way, you are having compassion and a change in perspective.  Its so important to not continue the cycle, to not let negativity spill out from you and spread like an infection.   Realizing we all have bad moments and chalking this one up to a momentary misfire on someone elses part, will allow you the mental space to keep on being positive.  Instead of thinking poorly of this person, take a moment and send them some positive vibes and hope that their day gets better.  For their sake and everyone else who may encounter them.   

Negative thinking doesn't just come as a reaction to someone elses behavior.  It can also be the way we talk to ourselves about ourselves.  Its so important to be mindful of how we talk to ourselves.  The world can be a tough and demanding place and sometimes it seems its out to get us.  The last thing that we should do is be hard on ourselves too.   Learn to be a soft place for yourself to land.  Learn to tell yourself positive and uplifting things about yourself.   Instead of mulling thoughts like "I am not good enough"  or "I am not as smart as everyone else"  tell yourself "I am great", "I am wonderful"  and "I am intelligent, compassionate and kind".   We are so rarely taught to be kind to ourselves first.  But being kind and having a positive dialogue inside ourselves is key to having positive interactions with the world around us. 

The more you practice compassion and shifting perspectives with negative situations and people you encounter, the easier it becomes.   And as it becomes easier, it starts to form a habit inside your mind, a habit of taking negative experiences and thoughts and turning them into positive ones.  Then the chain reaction of positive thinking starts!

If your interested in learning about changing your thinking and perspective to awakening the healing ability inate in you, contact me for free / donation based spiritual counseling.  Visit the Contact/Donations page and drop me an email.
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